I got my first iPhone in 2009 and it was amazing.
I had crazy technology in my pocket at all times.
An insanely powerful computer that can communicate with others and also give me any information I wanted on demand.
If I went back over the last nine years and documented my phone usage…
Mostly mindless phone usage...
It would be absolute insanity how much time I spent on my phone.
Tens of thousands of hours in fact.
Addiction, in my case, would be an understatement.
Full dependency for years and years.
Dependent on maps and directions.
Dependent on notifications in social media.
Damn, notifications feel good.
I was mentioned. I was liked. I was shared.
Give me MOARRRRRR.
Dependent on texts, phone calls and voicemails.
Mostly unimportant, surface level communication.
The fact that I get SO pissed about my battery dying…
And I blame it on Apple or the manufacturer…
“How have you NOT solved this problem yet!?!?!?”
Maybe I should ask myself, “Why am I on the phone to the point of battery exhaustion every single day?”
I get it. I get it.
It’s incredible technology.
You run your business from your phone.
You talk to your family and FaceTime on your phone.
I have zero qualms with that.
But, what if you truly documented your time on the phone.
And what apps you spend most of your time in?
Is your phone dying because you used FaceTime connecting with loved ones?
Or is it dying because you were watching Pornhub or Youtube or getting dopamine hits from social notifications?
Or is it dying from just mindlessly opening up Instagram and Facebook and scrolling the feeds without even realizing you are doing it?
Smartphones have steadily ruined my life since 2009.
My attention span has decreased significantly.
On-demand, free porn in my pocket has deteriorated my view of intimacy.
I’ve avoided self-reflection because of my pocket-sized distraction machine.
I’ve lost touch of who I am to the core and what I care about.
A massive disconnect with myself.
It led to shallow relationships with others.
Relationships where I wouldn’t be fully present.
It led to constantly working 24/7 without even realizing it.
And I’ve just lived this way like it’s normal.
Because it kind of is normal now.
Normal from societal standards.
But, it doesn’t have to be.
I can set healthy boundaries.
I can set daily, weekly and monthly blackout periods where I’m totally disconnected.
I can take multi-day blackout trips by myself.
Where I fully disconnect from tech to reconnect with myself and those close to me.
And I can incorporate Quarterly Blackouts the same way I would do a quarterly offsite with my team.
Because when I’m fully present and dialed in, everyone benefits.
My company, my family, my spouse, my friends.
They all get the best, fully present version of myself.
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